criteria to look in ur spouse
female- kecantikan, harta, keturunan, agama(the most important)
male- qawiy, al-amin (kuat, amanah), beragama,good akhlak
after look at this criteria, if good next proceed with,
1) istisyarah (mesyuarat)
-ask from his/her friend about ur future spouse, if good comment from people that u ask, then proceed...
2)istikharah (ask for the best)
-ask from allah, so that choices guided by allah
-but istikharah is not purposely not only for marry
3)if everything good proceed with determined in ur heart(azam yg tinggi)
4)tawakal(after every effort that we put on, last tawakal to allah)
post nikah
1)work togather (sila hilangkan EGO)
2)control ur anger (penting especially yg muda)
3)only one KING and one Queen at A time..
4)understand each other
-boy- physical based (boys need RESPECT from his wife)
-girl-emotional based (the thing that she really need is LOVE)
Dan di antara tanda-tanda (kebesaranNya) ialah Dia Menciptakan pasangan-pasangan untukmu daripada jenismu sendiri, agar kamu cenderung dan merasa tenteram kepadanya, dan Dia Menjadikan di antaramu rasa kasih & sayang. Sungguh, pada yang demikian itu benar-benar terdapat tanda-tanda (kebesaran Allah) bagi kaum yang berfikir." [surah Ar-Rum (30): ayat 21]
[ringkasan form syeikh alaa el syed]
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